Tensions in marriage are normal, and unavoidable. They’re part of the price of intimacy. Problems only occur when these underlying tensions are ongoing, and not acknowledged. They are semi-buried. Children are geniuses at feeling these latent tensions; they often help magnify what hasn’t been addressed. In fact, in their own way, they may be trying to help.
Teenage “cutting”: Teenagers are often seen in individual therapy for the self-mutilating behavior called “cutting.” Here’s a family therapy approach that stopped the cutting by revealing what was behind her apparent self-destructive behavior.
In this installment of Case of The Mean Dad, the parents finally reintroduce their kids into the therapy sessions. Sometimes, indeed, children are the best therapists!
In this session from “The Mean Dad”, I learned that I underestimated the degree of turmoil in this family. They set me straight.
Here’s a first session with a “misbehaving” boy that reflects the corrosive effect of “enforced unity” in families
Defiant kids, angry kids, crazy kids, are a byproduct of family interactions, and simultaneously a byproduct of the family’s interaction with the culture.