To be a parent is to know worry. There’s no escaping it, and there’s really no cure for it. As my blogging buddy David Keith says, “If you can’t stand guilt don’t become a parent.”
Couples in therapy are often like the Three Bears: The temperature in the relationship is either too hot, too cold–usually not “just right”. Here’s how a couple re-set their Passion Meter.
Kids instinctively “worry”, that is, feel responsible for their families. Don’t forget that. Children worry about their families. They are trying to help the parents become not only better parents but better people. But their therapeutic methods get diagnosed as mental illness.
We hope you enjoy this rather charming post from The School of Life. The author, Alain de Botton, illustrates how our unconscious wounds from childhood can show up later in […]
For Amy and Dave, common psychiatric “disorders” are part of relational patterns, usually embedded in the dynamics of the family. You just have to know how to look.
Please enjoy this poem by one of my favorite poets, Billy Collins: Purity My favourite time to write is in the late afternoon, weekdays, particularly Wednesdays. This is how I […]
In honor of Valentine’s Day, here’s a taste of Funny Food, from our friend Bill Wurtzel. “LOX OF LOVE”
This Family Medicine hospital consultation involved a mute patient who had just had her leg amputated. The hospital staff was angry at her. Then this young doctor took the time to learn what was going on and everything changed.
Check out this item from Bill Wurtzel’s “Funny Food” collection. Bill is a good friend of ours, and a hugely creative guy. Here’s one of his latest:
When family dysfunction meets disease: How a therapy session transformed family patterns and helped a young woman improve her self-care.
Dr. Dave on How To Love Your Very Self: He shares his reflections on how we lose our self-love and how to get it back.
Here’s a funny and thoughtful post from The School of Life. The film clips are fantastic. The author, Alain de Botton takes a gentle look at that common phenomenon of […]
Understanding and changing family relationship patterns can make a huge difference for kids diagnosed with ADHD.
Amy: When my friend Jerry Clements showed me this cartoon today, I absolutely fell apart laughing. I felt like my psyche was on display. “How did they know?” I asked […]
Part of the appeal of the “chemical imbalance” metaphor is that it people don’t have to feel ‘guilty” about their depression, or problems with their kids. But it can keep both patients and therapists from getting to the all-important bottom of things.
The logic of “chemical imbalance” persuades both patients and practitioners that context and subjective experience are not important. But that logic interferes with the understanding the person’s pain, and what it’s made of.