Here’s an inside look at what makes marriage both incredibly challenging, and, potentially, the most enriching experience of a lifetime.
(This is a re-posting of one of our early Oldies but Goodies) The Early Contract of A Couple Dave: Romance begins with excitement. Love probably begins with shared pain (I sense your need for me). Romance is a game-like shift into another sphere, a mini-psychosis. Romance embodies sex and sex’s more poetic, ritualized version, eroticism. Love, which includes sexuality and […]
Amy: I’m in Los Angeles this weekend, and decided to make myself a T-Shirt to express my solidarity with all the “nasty women” in the world. For those of you […]
Dave: I have a long interest in patterns of illness in families. Much of my clinical work is involved in working with families referred by a physician where a member […]
Amy: When I sat down to write this post today, I intended to write about the more “clinical” matter of anxiety. But, somehow, I kept thinking about this past week of […]
Amy: I love this little post from Alain de Botton’s The School of Life. He talks about the importance of honoring the Baby in all of us. From a personal perspective, my best coach on this matter is my husband, who’s pretty good at letting himself whine when he’s got an emotional boo-boo. I’m slowly getting better at it.
Here are my reflections on a rather subtle, yet insidious family pattern characterized by invisible (unconscious) demands for false togetherness, the demand that all family members pretend to think the same. This enforced “togetherness” has a formidable, unyielding tone, suggesting it is not to be questioned.
Amy: Part of my attraction to the video “What Nice Men Don’t Say to Nice Women” (see post from 9/5) was that this was the first time I had seen […]
Dave and Raluca Jacono (Raluca is a wonderful therapist/ friend of DK): We both responded similarly to the Nice Man video. ( See video “What Nice Men Don’t Say To Nice Women” from […]
Amy: Here’s a rather provocative post from Alain de Botton’s “School of Life”. We were a bit ambivalent about posting it. I don’t like the ending; it’s too literal. It […]
The “Cool” Guy and the “Needy” Woman: It’s not what you think Here’s what this couple looks like under the mask.
Often sex is more than just sex. The sexual relationship between intimate partners has a way of exposing some of the underlying satisfactions and tensions between the couple. If the sexual relationship isn’t working, the relationship probably isn’t either.
Here’s another clip from Alain de Botton from The School of Life. Enjoy:
We often hear about depression as “anger turned inward.” Sometimes it works the other way around, with anger masking a depression. Here’s what that can look like.
“Compliance carries with it a sense of futility for the individual and is associated with the idea that nothing matters, life is not worth living…”
DK: In this series of brief essays I have referred to marriage as a Wonderland, the magical underground world where Alice went when she fell down the rabbit hole, or […]