Dave Keith reflects on the relationship between the “I”– our Self–and the system of social selves, a community of selves. The social selves are roles that we play. We all have multiple personalities. Personalities are context dependent.The social selves are how we are known. No one knows our core self.
Dave continues his meditation on the tensions and play between our multiple “selves”; the social, fantasy and core parts of our being–and what this means for our relationship with others.
Our current cultural model for conditions like anxiety and depression uses language like “chemical imbalance”, implying that suffering is related to our brain chemistry. In this post, Dave Keith offers another perspective that looks at our moods as dynamic states related to the context of our living patterns.
In this post, Dave shares his clinical story about a young woman with severe depression and her recovery, without the use of medications. It again reminds us about the power of relationship, and the power of creative caring.
Amy: Check out this small, funny reflection on “confidence” from Alain de Botton’s The School of Life. The video points to the liberating effects of allowing for, and accepting, our innate craziness […]
Check out the moving tale of courage and pain on the part of this impressive Saudi woman.
Writer Delia Ephron, who co-wrote the screenplay for several iconic American films, including Sleepless in Seattle, tells her heart-warming story of unexpectedly finding love. Then she gets sick.
Dave: A colleague sent this quotation with image. I liked it but I think it was because she was referring to the many conversations we have had over the last […]
Happy Mother’s Day To All Our Readers Here’s something I received from my good friend Elaine
The idea of being “ruthless” sounds jarring at first, until we realize how it’s an essential ingredient in healthy living, both personally and professionally. It speaks to how we maintain our integrity in the face of demands for conformity.
Listen to Alain de Botton reflect on the benefits of being “kind egoists”. He notes how maintaining a healthy selfishness is probably the best, most authentic way to be there […]
Therapists tend to be good at being kind and patient with difficult people and they know how to put up with their patients’ demanding and outrageous behavior. Too often the demand for good manners persuades therapists to compromise their integrity in the attempt to maintain the relationship and to make their patients feel worthwhile. But compromising integrity interferes with the effectiveness of therapeutic work.
Dave: A good friend and talented colleague in Syracuse, Christine Matteson, a Licensed Creative Arts Therapist and Mental Health Counselor, sent me a copy of her recent newsletter: Creative Arts […]
To be a parent is to know worry. There’s no escaping it, and there’s really no cure for it. As my blogging buddy David Keith says, “If you can’t stand guilt don’t become a parent.”
We hope you enjoy this rather charming post from The School of Life. The author, Alain de Botton, illustrates how our unconscious wounds from childhood can show up later in […]
Please enjoy this poem by one of my favorite poets, Billy Collins: Purity My favourite time to write is in the late afternoon, weekdays, particularly Wednesdays. This is how I […]