The modern Child Psychiatry perspective is limited to focusing on the child, without including the family culture in which that child lives. This narrow understanding contributes to the child’s isolation. That little person is usually worried about, and trying to help, the parents. No matter how it appears.
To be a parent is to know worry. There’s no escaping it, and there’s really no cure for it. As my blogging buddy David Keith says, “If you can’t stand guilt don’t become a parent.”
Kids instinctively “worry”, that is, feel responsible for their families. Don’t forget that. Children worry about their families. They are trying to help the parents become not only better parents but better people. But their therapeutic methods get diagnosed as mental illness.
For Amy and Dave, common psychiatric “disorders” are part of relational patterns, usually embedded in the dynamics of the family. You just have to know how to look.
When family dysfunction meets disease: How a therapy session transformed family patterns and helped a young woman improve her self-care.
Understanding and changing family relationship patterns can make a huge difference for kids diagnosed with ADHD.
Part of the appeal of the “chemical imbalance” metaphor is that it people don’t have to feel ‘guilty” about their depression, or problems with their kids. But it can keep both patients and therapists from getting to the all-important bottom of things.
Here’s the Grand Finale of a difficult, satisfying family therapy case. I think we all, patients and therapist, learned a lot.
In this installment of Case of The Mean Dad, the parents finally reintroduce their kids into the therapy sessions. Sometimes, indeed, children are the best therapists!
The “Mean Dad” series continues. (First post can be found on 12/4/16). In this session, the Mean Dad reveals the emptiness he feels in his marriage. This comes as a surprise to his wife.
More from “The Mean Dad”. (First installment on 12/4/16). In this session the wife reveals some important wisdom about her marriage.
In the ongoing saga of “The Mean Dad” (first installment on 12/4/16), we learn the back story of the Dad’s anxiety.
In this session from “The Mean Dad”, the wife shows some impressive courage that changes the course of the therapy.
In this “Mean Dad” session, the wife’s self-image of perfection is revealed as a powerful weapon in the marital battles.
In this session from “The Mean Dad” (first installment on 12/4/16), the wife has her self-image challenged. And she doesn’t like it.
In this session from “The Mean Dad”, I learned that I underestimated the degree of turmoil in this family. They set me straight.