Fighting is part of both healthy and unhealthy relationships. But unhealthy fighting looks different Here are two types of couples with unhealthy fighting patterns: The Disconnect and The Immovable Object.
To fight or Not to fight? Sometimes NOT fighting is more of a problem for couples. Chronic conflict-avoidance can show up as extramarital affairs, or behavior problems in kids.
Couples in therapy are often like the Three Bears: The temperature in the relationship is either too hot, too cold--usually not "just right". Here's how a couple re-set their Passion Meter.
Here's the Grand Finale of a difficult, satisfying family therapy case. I think we all, patients and therapist, learned a lot.
The "Mean Dad" series continues. (First post can be found on 12/4/16). In this session, the Mean Dad reveals the emptiness he feels in his marriage. This comes as a surprise to his wife.
More from "The Mean Dad". (First installment on 12/4/16). In this session the wife reveals some important wisdom about her marriage.
In the ongoing saga of "The Mean Dad" (first installment on 12/4/16), we learn the back story of the Dad's anxiety.
In this session from "The Mean Dad" (first installment on 12/4/16), the wife reveals the source of her resentment toward her husband.
In this session from "The Mean Dad", the wife shows some impressive courage that changes the course of the therapy.
In this "Mean Dad" session, the wife's self-image of perfection is revealed as a powerful weapon in the marital battles.
In this session from "The Mean Dad" (first installment on 12/4/16), the wife has her self-image challenged. And she doesn't like it.
In this session, the "Mean Dad" gets permission to worry about his kids, out loud.
The first session from The Case of "The Mean Dad": We give readers a glimpse into the therapy process as we follow this rather dramatic case through several session. We hope you get something out of it.
Jazz musicians as family therapists: Check out this case where jazz musicians were my "consultants" to a couple in therapy. It's just as surprising as you might imagine.
Jazz Musicians As Psychotherapists: Music can healing force. Here jazz musicians are invited to "consult" to family therapy sessions. The results have been amazing.
Here are my reflections on a rather subtle, yet insidious family pattern characterized by invisible (unconscious) demands for false togetherness, the demand that all family members pretend to think the same. This enforced "togetherness" has a formidable, unyielding tone, suggesting it is not to be questioned.