To be a parent is to know worry. There's no escaping it, and there's really no cure for it. As my blogging buddy David Keith says, "If you can't stand guilt don't become a parent."
Kids instinctively “worry”, that is, feel responsible for their families. Don’t forget that. Children worry about their families. They are trying to help the parents become not only better parents but better people. But their therapeutic methods get diagnosed as mental illness.
In the ongoing saga of "The Mean Dad" (first installment on 12/4/16), we learn the back story of the Dad's anxiety.
Amy: It’s been quite a week here in New York City, perhaps the most global of all American cities. It’s common for conversations with friends and colleagues to begin with […]
Dave: The birth of the baby represents a quantum jump in intimacy and the complexity of living. There is a deep mutuality in the relationship between a parent and an […]
The "Cool" Guy and the "Needy" Woman: It's not what you think Here's what this couple looks like under the mask.
AB: I was at my office in mid-October, as autumn was descending upon us, when I got a phone call from from an alarmed mom. She described her daughter, a freshman […]
Check out this excellent article by Frank Bruni of The New York Times. He looks at a rash of teen suicides among affluent Palo Alto youth, and wonders about where we’re […]
DK: This article reflects on my experience of being a hard-core family therapist disguised as a child psychiatrist working with families and children in a cultural climate that sees very […]
AB: This past week I began thinking about a case from my office from several years back. It made a strong impression on me at the time, and I thought […]
Amy: Here’s a case from my office which reveals how a partner’s emotional withdrawal can act as a powerful anxiety-producer: ( As usual, identifying data/details are disguised.) I first met […]
Amy: Sometimes in the course of my work with family doctors, we find ourselves engrossed in conversation that feels unexpectedly meaningful. Such a moment occurred the other night. I thought […]