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Month: November 2018

Amy Begel 0

A Long Marriage Is Many Marriages

Anyone who is married for any length of time knows that the relationship undergoes many transformations in the course of living together. Most of these transformations are unconscious, outside awareness, and often felt as subtle–or not so subtle–tensions between the couple. One of the most profound transformations occurs with the birth of the first child, that magic transition from a two-person to a three-person family. The unconscious contract of the relationship, that  subtle “agreement” which binds the couple , undergoes one of the most important stress-tests in the life of the couple.  Almost nothing tests the elasticity, the creativity, and the commitment of a couple like the act of becoming parents.  Here is a case which shows how painful this test can be.